When you say "I do," you're not just gaining a husband—you're also getting a whole new family. Of course, you'll want your relationship with your mother-in-law to start off on the right foot, so here are seven mistakes brides make when communicating with their MIL during the wedding planning process that you'll want to avoid.
Not listening to her. Your mother-in-law might have some specific expectations about how she will be involved in planning the wedding, like arranging the seating for the groom's side of the family or putting together the rehearsal dinner on her own. While you don't have to give her everything she wants (especially if it makes you uncomfortable), you should try to respect her wishes when you can.
Ignoring your own wishes. You don't have to submit to all of your mother-in-law's wishes for the wedding. If you have your heart set on going wedding dress shopping with just your mom, then that's what you should do. This is a once-in-a-lifetime event, so you want it to be filled with happy memories.
Putting your groom in charge of communicating with his mom. While it might seem easier to just have your husband-to-be "handle" his mom, she might get the feeling that you don't want her involved in the planning or that you're not interested in a relationship with her. So, make it a point to reach out to her.
Only sending texts. A lot can be lost in translation through texting--tone, sarcasm, etc. Not to mention that our parents' generation isn't used to exclusively communicating this way. When you have the time, pick up the phone and call your MIL. She'll appreciate it, and it will likely make communication easier.
Skipping specifics. When your MIL takes over a wedding-related task, be very specific about what you want and what she will be doing. Just like anyone else helping out with the event, don't assume she'll know what will make you happy.
Not asking about her talents. Everyone has specific talents, so be sure to ask your MIL about what she can do. For example, maybe she loves flowers or is a master at floral arrangements. Then she'd be the perfect person to accompany you and the groom to appointments with the florist.
Forgetting about the relationship after the wedding. Wedding planning is filled with stress, so it can be easy to snap at everyone around you. While you should be respectful to everyone that is helping you plan the day, be particularly careful with your mother-in-law!
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