Valerie Bertinelli is reflecting on her breakup from Mike Goodnough on social media.
The 64-year-old One Day at a Time actress and the 54-year-old lifestyle writer dated for ten months, but reportedly broke up at the end of last year because maintaining a long-distance relationship was proving too difficult. Keep reading to find out what she told her Instagram followers about relationships, including her own…
Valerie Bertinelli Says She Thinks About 'Mistakes' She Has Made In Relationships
The Hot in Cleveland star made a heartbreaking confession about her love life while also giving fans some great relationship advice on a since-deleted Instagram post, which she shared with her 1.6M followers earlier this month.
"I think about mistakes I've made in relationships a lot. I've been on both sides of this and I think I finally have some perspective, so I thought I'd share," Bertinelli captioned her selfie.
Valerie Bertinelli Gives Fans Relationship Advice
"When you feel hurt and wronged and know you deserve an apology but are being stonewalled by your partner because they're feeling shame, maybe this can shift your thinking," the Valerie's Home Cooking star continued, before giving her followers some more advice for their own relationships.
"Are you only pointing out what they're doing wrong, being hypercritical, and expecting them to just fix it? That could be making things worse," the Indulge author wrote, which could give fans a hint into what might have gone wrong in her latest relationship.
She continued: "Change, real change, never happens through criticism, shame, or pressure. They most likely already feel all that. (I know when I [expletive] up, oof, do I feel shame.) Maybe try, 'This is how I feel when this happens, can we figure this out together?'"
"That one small change can make a difference. Then you're on the same team. You're not working *against* each other, you're working *with* each other."
"I think we all just want to do better and feel awful when we've hurt someone we love and shame prevents us from thinking clearly," she continued, and then asked: "Wouldn't it be nice to relieve the one you love from shame so they can truly give you the amends you're looking for?"
Bertinelli concluded her post by seemingly making fun of herself, writing: "Then again, what do I know. I have two failed marriages and fumbled the last true good man I met. Maybe don't take advice from me."
